How I Work in Family Therapy

I approach family therapy from a narrative and systemic perspective, understanding that no difficulty exists in isolation. When a child is struggling, when conflict escalates, or when communication breaks down, I see this not as one person being “the problem,” but as something happening within a relationship system. Families develop patterns over time — often protective patterns — that once made sense, but may now be causing distress.
In our work together, we gently slow things down. We listen to each person’s experience and the meanings they make of events. I am interested in the stories that have formed around each family member — stories about who is “the anxious one,” “the difficult one,” “the responsible one,” or “the strong one.” Rather than locating the problem inside a person, we externalise it and become curious about how it moves through the family. This often softens blame and opens space for compassion.

I also pay close attention to intergenerational influences — the ways parents’ own childhood experiences, cultural contexts, and attachment histories shape how they respond to their children. Often, families discover that they are not simply reacting to the present moment, but to old, unfinished experiences. Bringing awareness to these patterns allows new choices to emerge.

Sessions are experiential and relational.